Valentines Day I was invited to a Tarts and Moar Tarts Party. It’s like a tarts and vicars party, but without the boring vicars and with more men in fishnets too. Jonah, Quinky’s boyfriend and his partner threw this lovely thing and were gracious enough to open their home to a bunch of us hoodlums. People dressed like whores and brought all manner of “tarts”, aka pies.
The entire murder was invited, but Cleveland and his wife had plans to hit Dan Savage’s live show, and Peaches and her boyfriend, the Engineer had plans to NOT celebrate Valentines Day. So, Traveler, Quinky and I set out. They hadn’t planned to tart it up, but they did it for me. I didn’t want to be the only one there I knew doing it. It took about 3 hours to tart up Quinky and it was WORTH IT. She wore a corset and stripey bra, a skirt she borrowed from me, stripey tights and high-heeled boots. I wore booty shorts, thigh highs, red leopard shoes, a push up bra, and a tight little top. We both wore pounds of make-up and these fabulous long lashes. Best of all.. Traveler succumbed to our tarty ways! He surprised me again, really getting into it and wearing his luscious black Calvin Klein pettable underwear, a long black and gold silken robe, cowboy boys and a fitted tee that matched his lovely boxer briefs, emblazoned with the word “Dang!”. LOL. It was awesome. He was basically all package with his boots and a smile. And Quinky was pretty much all tits, as her rather enviable “assets” were pushed up to her chin. I told her, and meant it, that if she ever wants anything from anyone she should wear that outfit. Thus began the evening.
We hit the party and had the loveliest time meeting people. Traveler and I ended up snuggling on a pillow pile, petting each other and relaxing with some wine while we enjoyed a parade of good people watching. Quinky was the life of the party, lit up and beautiful, laughing and joking and visiting, playful and fun. It was so nice to see Jonah and his partner and Jonah’s other loves. They have good group of friends for a cool party like that too. Everyone was pretty chill and there was a fun sexy vibe to the night. Quinky decided to stay and Traveler and I kissed her goodbye and headed home about 2:30.
As a little aside, I wanted to share a little thing we learned. Recently that we’ve accidentally left Peaches out a bit of “family” time. We just haven’t done much stuff with the “Murder” (our little group) since the holidays, and Traveler and Quinky and I have enjoyed some nice time together. We obviously never meant to leave Peaches out, but some of the things were when she was busy with her family or traveling, or with her other boyfriend or whatever so we didn’t invite her, which is frankly a mistake. Even if you can’t make it, it’s nice when those you love invite you or tell you that they’d like your company. It’s good to have it clear that you are wanted, you know?
I’ve had this feeling in the past too.. of being left out. With any group, this can happen, and Peaches did the right thing and said something and it gave us the opportunity to make it better. People that love us don’t usually mean to hurt our feelings, and we need to be brave enough to just clearly communicate with them when they do. When we’re direct we stand a better chance of getting the things we want.
So, some of the responsibility for this falls on us. But some falls on what is just life too. Peaches has a family here, and therefore less free-time. It’s not a bad thing, obviously, but she is a good mother. She also has slightly different interests too, and that’s okay. I try not to be jealous of the activities they do. I haven’t ever been to a movie with Traveler, or taken a daytrip, like they have. Traveler hasn’t ever wanted to take me to a concert. And that’s okay. We can do some of those things if we want to. Peaches doesn’t like WoW and isn’t into some of the kink we’re exploring. And you know.. that’s a GOOD thing. If Peaches and I were identical and liked all the same stuff how boring would that be for Traveler? It’s nice that Peaches and Quinky and I have some overlapping interests and some unique interests. So, like with most things.. it takes two sides. I need to not assume people have a bad reason for what they do and I have to tell them if they are accidentally being thoughtless, and be willing to forgive their oversight. I just thought it was a cool thing to remember and I was really grateful she’d said something. We all do this stuff in our relationships, so we need to communicate with each other and remember to not take those we love and their certainty of our love for granted. 🙂