We are officially not in the land of new relationships and it’s complicated sometimes. Sometimes we do it very well and sometimes we fumble a bit and work to figure it out. Traveler and I had a little fritzy-bit, nothing huge, but just a thing between the two of us and something we worked out. And then another totally unrelated one a little after. It seems simple at first, but it’s actually not. I just wanna share how sometimes the answer isn’t a simple thing with one person right and one person wrong.
I was a little nervous about some new social engagements and Traveler very sweetly said he’d go to a couple of the things with me, one of which was Monday and one of which was coming up next weekend. Then when we were planning our week this week he remembered and said that he’d come with me and said he’d like to come stay the night with me after. I reminded him that Quinky Girl would be going too, and that was awesome. We’d all go and he and he and I would come home together after. Cool. I have to admit it’s nice to get to get the one he comes home with after a nice night where we all hung out. It’s not a date but just a normal night and I get to have that too. Kinda awesome and rad that such things aren’t just the domain of Traveler’s one partner.
That morning he asked me to pick up something for him for the potluck when I ran to the store. He said to run it by Quinky to be sure we didn’t mess up whatever her plan was. Excellent. Good idea. But I forgot to run it by her until the last minute and she was rushing out to get her things done and wasn’t able to coordinate with me. She thought we’d all just all do our own thing but she didn’t know because I’d fucked up and not told her that Traveler had asked me to get stuff for him. She and Traveler had worked out something after Traveler and I working out our thing that morning, but I didn’t know what.
Had she just told him what she was bringing and he still expected me to pick up what he’d asked me to, or had he talked about what he’d asked me to pick up and she was getting it now? Or were they just doing something different?. She was driving and couldn’t answer. I was at the store and needed to make a decision. Do I buy the stuff he thought he might want me to get but wasnt sure about or not? I asked him. He was at work and didn’t answer. Shit. I waited and the store and tried a little more but wasn’t able to reach anyone. Okay.. no big deal. I’d just buy what he’d asked me to and if we had too much or the wrong thing it’s not a big deal. Shrug.
Then he pops up and we make a plan. He’ll be at my house by 645 to drop off his car and we’ll go back to his house to get Quinky since her dish would take a little more time. Great. I ran home and heated my meatballs fast. I get ready super fast and end up waiting. Around the time he’s supposed to be at my house he pops up again and says that Quinky’s dish is baking but will take a little longer and they’ll be ready at 730. Um. Okay. I ask “are you not coming here to drop off your car anymore?” No answer. Does he need to watch the oven?
He could still come here to drop off his car since the mushrooms will need almost an hour. It’s 6:39 and he’s saying they’ll be done around 7:30. I ask if he and Quinky are caravanning here then on the way to the potluck because he said he’d take the bridge and I live by it. Are they dropping off his car later? No answer. I’m a little annoyed. What happened to our plan? Why is he not telling me anything? I guess the plan changed.
I sat there waiting some more.