Sometimes people tell themselves things.
I posted a rather stupid comment on my grown daughter’s Facebook page that implied something I honestly hadn’t meant. I was trying to be funny and failed. The dog walker jumped on there and called me out and said something to the effect of “shame on you. (Ex-hubby) and (daughter) are father and daughter!” I replied that it wasn’t her business and that I knew they were father and daughter since I helped raise my daughter since she was 7. But I realized my comment was kinda stupid and apologized to my ex and my daughter and deleted it.
The dog walker sent a message to me saying it was her business because my daughter is her family and my ex and my daughter belong to her now. Um. Okay. Like they are cows. It’s not like I think my ex is mine at all, in any shape or form. I get that my daughter is also becoming the dog walker’s family. This is natural. They are in each other’s lives daily and likely care a great deal about each other. More people loving and treating my daughter well is awesome in my book. My daughter becoming family is awesome, but it doesn’t make her any less my family too. And as I said here many times, I genuinely liked the dog walker. I think she’s a good fit for The ex and she was always really nice. I’m honestly not sure what beef she could have with me. I never talk to her, have no dealings with her, talk to my ex (her boyfriend) hardly ever, and have never said a negative thing about her. I’m a grown-up. She was always amazing with my pets, and seemed like a genuinely nice person.
So, here’s the thing that puzzled me with this. When she sent her irate message, she started it with “your cheating is out in the open now”. Um.. yeah. I’d say me having sex outside my marriage is pretty fucking well documented. I’ve been writing a blog about it for 3 years now and it has gotten over 120,000 hits and has 750 or so regular prescribers. I am out to pretty much everyone. My husband and I told our families we were open. Even a few people at my work know. It’s not a secret. I had sex with others.