Poly people are busy, yo. Heh. Like you didn’t know that. Sometimes things become a colorful mess on Google Calendar, and then what do you do?
Poly people are even busier when they are in grad school and when they are working nearly 60 hours a week and when they are doing renovations. I’m sure that holds for “when they are parents” and “When they are care taking for loved ones” and a host of other things.
My poor Traveler has had to work like a mad man. He was out of town. Then on our date when he got home he fell asleep at 830pm. We went to dinner and came home and he passed out.. just like that. A quickie before renovations and the big game. The SuperBowl we all got to spend together, a few hours with Quinky Girl for him, and he had to work till 1030 and we snuggled and slept. Then our next date he had to take off work for something Quinky needed for the renovation and he had to work all night to make it up. Then again, he got off early for reno and had to work all night on our date. Basically I’ve fed him, burped him, and put him to bed on every date we’ve had for two weeks. (Okay.. minus the burping). Then finally a Saturday night, but we spent it at Quinky Girl’s boyfriend’s party and again.. asleep. Thank god we love getting all wrapped up and snuggly in our sleep!
Let’s not even mention that two of those working and sleep dates I was working on deadlines too or that the working dates generally started about 2 hours before bed. Poor Traveler was EXHAUSTED and just fraught. I tried to soothe him and make it as nice as possible. What can you do? Sometimes life is crazy. The only time we were alone and he wasn’t working we spent doing demo, and that was an amazing godsend. It felt good to connect with him.