Ugh. Dating is the fucking worst sometimes, isn’t it?
I am feeling disheartened. I really am.
I talked with this guy last night and had all this clicking all over the place. He is smart and interesting and a good conversationalist. I put out feelers for a nice casual friend for some adventures.
We talked late. We talked so late I was late on a paper. He just seemed.. kinda great.
So today we talked about meeting for a drink. He was willing to come by my house and I made sure that he understood meeting by my apartment would not mean that there would be any sex, and that I hoped we’d have a drink and talk.
Hours of conversation.. all that talking about all kinds of things last night and this morning and then he cools. He isn’t so into meeting. I ask him about it and he says he’d rather not meet for a drink, and asks to meet at my place or his. I say we don’t have to meet for a drink. A coffee or a walk or a yogurt or something are fine.
More foot dragging. Talk about it again and he explains that if I’m uncomfortable we can meet in public, but he’s met people from online before without the meet and greet and it was fun for all and not all about the sex.
I tell him I understand that not everyone does things the way I do, but I would like to meet and just talk without expectation. When I have met people from online I had oodles of sexy talk with, often the click isn’t there and for me sometimes that is because I feel like there is an obligation or expectation and it’s just better for me and sexier to meet without expectation and let things take their course.
He was rather petulant about it, and we thanked each other for the time. Just like that.
So odd. Why would you talk to a woman for hours and hours and then refuse to meet her for a drink if she would not promise sex immediately? Wouldn’t it have just been smart to go, have a drink, chit chat and end the meeting with a kiss and maybe plans to play next time? In the best case scenario you meet just for a drink, hit it off and end up together that night, right? So weird.
What the fuck dating world?
I think I’m going to take up knitting or something instead or join a cribbage league or something.
You and I both know I’ll change my mind. But right now I’m thinking.. fuck dating. What a bunch of bullshit.