Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater

ImageI’ve been looking on OKC a little more.  I’m not really looking to date much at this point, but I guess I’m getting a little curious.  I’ve been perusing the ladies, and looking at a few guys with really specific interests (kink).   I’m not really looking to date so very much as maybe find a playfriend.  In a perfect world, well.. I’d find a kinky person or a bi woman to have fun times with, but I’m open to whatever and not searching too damn hard.

If I add any pics or answer any questions I kinda “wake up” my profile and get messages, so I’m not doing that.  But I have actually logged in more lately so that starts a trickle.  So far I found one woman I wanted to meet who wanted me to fuck her boyfriend and pretended she was interested in me when she isn’t.   I’ve also exchanged messages with dudes who turned out to be married and thought me being open meant I’d happily help them cheat on their wives.  I think they didn’t understand open or poly.  I usually just don’t engage or respond to such messages.  One guy sent me two copies of the exact same long generic message a few weeks apart.  I don’t know why they don’t use a spreadsheet or something to let them know who they’ve spammed already.  I replied that he’d already sent me that message and that I wouldn’t be answering cut and paste messages that dudes sent out to every chick, looking to see what sticks.

He replied that he knew I’d already received his message and that he isn’t a cutter and paster, but we were such a good match he had to try.  Yeah.  Right.  And we were a terrible match.  I say a few times in my profile that honesty is important to me and I don’t date anyone cheating on anyone in any way.   I have no idea why I engaged either.

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The Lonely Polyamorist

I Have To Be Alone?

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The Google Logo with lots of hearts floating around it found at: http://christofouche.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Google-love.jpg

One of the surprising things (to me) about having multiple relationships is that you have to be or get good at being alone.  When people ask me stuff about poly.. well they ask about the sex.  But after they’ve exhausted that, they ask about the handling jealousy and finally about how it actually works.  It’s a lot of scheduling.  Most poly people use Google Calendar, for a couple of good reasons.  You can access it anywhere.. any computer or smart phone or whatever, and you can share calendars.  When your lives get a little entwined and you’d like to see each other’s schedules you can “share” your Google Calendar.  Some of us call this “Google Official”.  It’s just a little joke, like getting Facebook official.

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