There are so many things that I don’t know. I know I had an insanely hot loving close intimate fun weekend. There were trips to the sex shop for more gear, delicious breakfast casseroles and cookouts, leather cuffs, so much snuggling, petting, great talks about everything, beautiful nights, insanely hot times with just Traveler and I, and then Traveler and I and our new friend Yarn Hooker, and with a new guy I haven’t named yet. There was wine tasting and homemade pie, games with friends, old friends playing putt putt and laughing over pizza, and a lazy morning just like we like. There was something in the air this weekend! I will be enjoying memories of this weekend for some time to come.
And my friend sent me messages yesterday, expressing joy at his partner finding a great new prospect and a tiny bit of trepidation. What if she likes him better? What if she only needs the new man? What if he makes her forget my friend? He went online to read blogs and found some, all ending with divorce. Not very encouraging.
I told him honestly that sometimes this life is bitter hard. Relationships USUALLY end before death. This is true in monogamy and in polyamory and in every other kind of ‘amory too. How many people do you know that are blissfully coupled with the only person they’ve ever loved and they’ve been together and close and happy for life? Chances are if you are lucky you can name maybe 5 couples. That’s 5 couples out of the hundreds or thousands of couples you have known. It’s not like monogamous relationships are paragons of stability either. But with the fluid nature of open relationship networks, things do have more opportunity for change, and that really points out the unstable nature of romantic relationships. Continue reading